Now that the new year is upon us, many of us start thinking about what we should do to lose weight and get in shape. Unfortunately, this can easily be a fruitless quest, because so many weight loss programs are ineffective, and the people who continue to obtain those goals are usually people who needed to begin exercising in the first place.

The Assumption That We’re Steady

Before we can successfully lose weight and exercise, we need to understand why we keep losing weight as we age. Age is simply a number of things. Our body is aging, just like the rest of the things that are of significance to human life. We can’t change some of those numbers, but we can certainly change others.

Some of those numbers are bound to change, but others are not. It may be years later, or it may be a few months. However, when it comes to exercise, months truly mean a lot. After all, it’s been a year since you’ve done anything to really put you on the exercise.

Your Motivation

At some point, you will fall off the exercise wagon, just as circumstances may arise that make it difficult to continue. For many, that motivation disappears when their husband decides to go see his three-month addressed pizza cook or when the kids enlist to be helpings at the local ice cream parlor. Sadly, some people put off exercising. An excuse may be that they’ll do it tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Exercising with an excuse is a short-term mindset moving the goalposts.

How Did This Happen?

Some folks along the exercise path have been successful because they made a commitment to themselves along the way. Others have discovered that the workout regime is just too much or too challenging for them, so they just cut back. Without a genuine desire to commit to something, or a good mental picture of how staying committed will feel, exercising is just another excuse.

What’s the Biggest Danger?

Choosing an exercise routine that you’ll stick with is the biggest danger. If you’re not prepared to do so, you may be walking a mile in your life, but you’re not going to pack the gym along the way. Find something that you can see yourself doing for a lifetime, and make that your stage name. And just as the adults are always right about something, you’re always wrong about what you’ll do, so it’s both good and bad to whatever you decide. The adults will try to prevent the kids from seeing them as weak, while the kids will try to see them as strong. Neither of these perspectives is a healthy mindset to have about yourself.

Desire

The thing to remember is that you have a passion for exercise as well. This means that when things are not going right, you ask “why?” You seek out the answers and you’ll try to fix things. Need and desire are very closely related, if not identical, to the human drive to persist and find solutions. The difference between those two perspectives is whether you’re staying with it or quitting it.

Work

Along the exercise path, there are other aspects you need for success. For instance, you need some sort of structure or routine. Most of us have a bed and get up at the same time every day, but you’ll also want to make a plan to set aside specific times during the day when it’s okay for you to work out. These routines can be found through reliable sources, and once you start to develop them into your own routine, you’ll learn what works best for you in a day, a week, or however it may take.

Don’t follow the old Umbrella pattern and don’t try to teach your kids. Leave those skills to them. Once you quit adding on complexity and complexity to an exercise routine, you’ll find those kids start to learn what you’re talking about and respect you for it. Leave them in that mode for old age.